"A new study have discovered that people do change over the years, way after 30, and the saying people get wiser with age
is correct in
many cases"
is correct in
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Moving On
by Nina Baruch
Changes in life, and more
so crises, are the secret
to personal growth and
development. So why do
we dread and resist them
instead of embracing
them when they come
our way?
I was 13 years old when I got my first
period. Despite the fact that most of
my girlfriends got their period before
me, and although I was well aware of
the fact, I would get mine too, I was
devastated when I did.
I was so comfortable with my tomboy
existence that I had hoped it would
last forever. I loved climbing trees
with the boys and did not know how to handle the changes my body was going through.
Almost 40 years later, when I was going through menopause and my period became history, I felt devastated yet again. I was used to having my period as an integral part of me, and considered it an expression of my femininity and youth. Just as
I had overlooked the advantages of growing up as a teenager, I failed again to see the advantages of growing older.
We all know that life is about changing and moving on. However, many of us find it difficult to accept, and very rarely do we welcome these changes. Even when we know changes are inevitable, we resist them, avoid them, try to hold on to the past, and all too often fail to see the advantages and the great opportunities beyond them.
The main reason for such negative reactions, explains Michal Gazit, creativity coach and writer for ima-adama.co.il, is our fear of the unknown and the unfamiliar. She points out that every change involves a revival, and every such revival involves breaking boundaries, beyond our convenient and familiar settings.
In our familiar settings, we know what to expect, we predict the outcome and react accordingly. When we reach new territory, we do not know how to react or what to expect. Only after a long and sometimes treacherous process of adjustment, do we develop new skills and abilities and become ready to achieve a new balance in our lives. Nevertheless, this process is a scary one, and many of us will go to great lengths to avoid change, missing out the possible personal growth awaiting us.
Change vs. Crises
Our fears can get a lot worse when the changes we go through are the result of an unpredictable event, leaving us no way to avoid or resist them: getting fired, becoming ill or losing someone we care about. We call these events "crises", and constantly dread their appearance.
Although there is a difference between a predictable change and an out of the blue crisis, we can easily turn a completely welcomed and predictable change into a crisis too. We can plan and welcome the birth of a new baby, know exactly when it's due, and yet get scared when we hold it in our arms first time, and find it difficult to adjust our existence around this newcomer.
Apparently it doesn't matter whether we want the change or not, or whether it took us by surprise or not - it's still going to feel scary and stressful for awhile. We are the only one who decide whether the change will turn into a crisis that will break us, or will push us toward new horizons of personal growth.
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by Nina Baruch
Changes in life, and more
so crises, are the secret
to personal growth and
development. So why do
we dread and resist them
instead of embracing
them when they come
our way?
I was 13 years old when I got my first
period. Despite the fact that most of
my girlfriends got their period before
me, and although I was well aware of
the fact, I would get mine too, I was
devastated when I did.
I was so comfortable with my tomboy
existence that I had hoped it would
last forever. I loved climbing trees
with the boys and did not know how to handle the changes my body was going through.
Almost 40 years later, when I was going through menopause and my period became history, I felt devastated yet again. I was used to having my period as an integral part of me, and considered it an expression of my femininity and youth. Just as
I had overlooked the advantages of growing up as a teenager, I failed again to see the advantages of growing older.
We all know that life is about changing and moving on. However, many of us find it difficult to accept, and very rarely do we welcome these changes. Even when we know changes are inevitable, we resist them, avoid them, try to hold on to the past, and all too often fail to see the advantages and the great opportunities beyond them.
The main reason for such negative reactions, explains Michal Gazit, creativity coach and writer for ima-adama.co.il, is our fear of the unknown and the unfamiliar. She points out that every change involves a revival, and every such revival involves breaking boundaries, beyond our convenient and familiar settings.
In our familiar settings, we know what to expect, we predict the outcome and react accordingly. When we reach new territory, we do not know how to react or what to expect. Only after a long and sometimes treacherous process of adjustment, do we develop new skills and abilities and become ready to achieve a new balance in our lives. Nevertheless, this process is a scary one, and many of us will go to great lengths to avoid change, missing out the possible personal growth awaiting us.
Change vs. Crises
Our fears can get a lot worse when the changes we go through are the result of an unpredictable event, leaving us no way to avoid or resist them: getting fired, becoming ill or losing someone we care about. We call these events "crises", and constantly dread their appearance.
Although there is a difference between a predictable change and an out of the blue crisis, we can easily turn a completely welcomed and predictable change into a crisis too. We can plan and welcome the birth of a new baby, know exactly when it's due, and yet get scared when we hold it in our arms first time, and find it difficult to adjust our existence around this newcomer.
Apparently it doesn't matter whether we want the change or not, or whether it took us by surprise or not - it's still going to feel scary and stressful for awhile. We are the only one who decide whether the change will turn into a crisis that will break us, or will push us toward new horizons of personal growth.
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"Everything passes. Everything changes. Just do what you think you should do"
Bob Dylan,
"To Ramona"
Bob Dylan,
"To Ramona"
Bob Dylan (born Robert Allen Zimmerman in 1941) is an American singer-songwriter, author, musician and poet. Some of his songs, such as "Blowin' in the Wind" and "The Times They Are a-Changin'", became anthems of the anti-war and civil rights movements.