Cristopher Morley
"There is only one success: to be able to spend your life in your own way"
Christopher Morley (1890 -1957) was an American journalist, novelist, and poet. He was a Rhodes Scholar at New College, Oxford , and became a newspaper reporter and columnist for various publications. Morely was also the author of more than 50 books of poetry and novels.
Christopher Morley (1890 -1957) was an American journalist, novelist, and poet. He was a Rhodes Scholar at New College, Oxford , and became a newspaper reporter and columnist for various publications. Morely was also the author of more than 50 books of poetry and novels.
Get a Life (Coach)
By Nina Baruch
Life coaching has become one of
the most popular trends in the last
decade. Is it the logical next step
in the evolution of psychology, or
just another trend that will
eventually go away?
Two years ago, Dana, my 27 year old
daughter, decided to quit her job. Although
Dana was quite successful at what she did,
and was promoted twice over the three
years at her job, she felt bored, exhausted,
and was depressed most of the time. I knew
Dana had been miserable at her workplace
for a long time, and was worried sick about
her. Yet, when she told me about her plans
to leave her job, I was horrified.
As a single mom, who struggled for years to
survive, compromising too many times on
low incomes and boring jobs, I figured
human existence had to contain a series of
compromises, especially when it came to
keeping depressing and underpaid jobs.
After all, how else can you survive in this
cruel world?
Though I had no idea what would become of
me when I retired, and though I was sick
to my stomach every time I thought about the
future, one thing I knew for sure: if Dana quit
her job and didn't find another one, sooner or later she'd become a burden on my thin shoulders, I would lose the little I had saved, and both of us would go under. Not surprisingly, my first reaction was to suggest Dana keep her job at all costs, while trying to find another one, and deal with her depression with the help of a therapist. I initially thought I'd rather see Dana spend her money on a therapist, and blame me for her problems and sorrows in life, than have to support both of us with the little means I had.
Dana, always the good and considerate daughter, took my advice, kept her job, and spent most of her income on therapy. Sure enough she started blaming me for all the terrible mistakes I had made during her childhood, but her depression and boredom at work were growing deeper every day.
It took her (and me) a whole year to realize I had given her very bad advice. The therapy was not working, and she hated all the new jobs she found. Then she decided to quit working altogether, and part with her expensive but ineffective therapist. Soon enough she had to move in with me, and after a year of being blamed for all the wrong doings in the world, I felt so guilty, I didn't dare refuse to support her.
The next year was the hardest, scariest and most rewarding for both of us. Dana took a friend's advice, and started working with a life coach. She met a wonderful, warm and sensitive coach, who helped her find her true creative self, and build the life she had always wanted but had not known how to create. This process, which helped Dana start a new career as a successful artist, and put an end to her depression once and for all, was a huge revelation for me as well. For years I regarded myself as the unfortunate victim of bad luck, bad ex-husband, and bad bosses at my work places. Due to Dana's support, and her coach's insights, I too started a new venture in my own life, that brought me the independence, satisfaction, a sense of fulfillment, and the abundance I had always craved for. I began creating my wildest dreams.
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By Nina Baruch
Life coaching has become one of
the most popular trends in the last
decade. Is it the logical next step
in the evolution of psychology, or
just another trend that will
eventually go away?
Two years ago, Dana, my 27 year old
daughter, decided to quit her job. Although
Dana was quite successful at what she did,
and was promoted twice over the three
years at her job, she felt bored, exhausted,
and was depressed most of the time. I knew
Dana had been miserable at her workplace
for a long time, and was worried sick about
her. Yet, when she told me about her plans
to leave her job, I was horrified.
As a single mom, who struggled for years to
survive, compromising too many times on
low incomes and boring jobs, I figured
human existence had to contain a series of
compromises, especially when it came to
keeping depressing and underpaid jobs.
After all, how else can you survive in this
cruel world?
Though I had no idea what would become of
me when I retired, and though I was sick
to my stomach every time I thought about the
future, one thing I knew for sure: if Dana quit
her job and didn't find another one, sooner or later she'd become a burden on my thin shoulders, I would lose the little I had saved, and both of us would go under. Not surprisingly, my first reaction was to suggest Dana keep her job at all costs, while trying to find another one, and deal with her depression with the help of a therapist. I initially thought I'd rather see Dana spend her money on a therapist, and blame me for her problems and sorrows in life, than have to support both of us with the little means I had.
Dana, always the good and considerate daughter, took my advice, kept her job, and spent most of her income on therapy. Sure enough she started blaming me for all the terrible mistakes I had made during her childhood, but her depression and boredom at work were growing deeper every day.
It took her (and me) a whole year to realize I had given her very bad advice. The therapy was not working, and she hated all the new jobs she found. Then she decided to quit working altogether, and part with her expensive but ineffective therapist. Soon enough she had to move in with me, and after a year of being blamed for all the wrong doings in the world, I felt so guilty, I didn't dare refuse to support her.
The next year was the hardest, scariest and most rewarding for both of us. Dana took a friend's advice, and started working with a life coach. She met a wonderful, warm and sensitive coach, who helped her find her true creative self, and build the life she had always wanted but had not known how to create. This process, which helped Dana start a new career as a successful artist, and put an end to her depression once and for all, was a huge revelation for me as well. For years I regarded myself as the unfortunate victim of bad luck, bad ex-husband, and bad bosses at my work places. Due to Dana's support, and her coach's insights, I too started a new venture in my own life, that brought me the independence, satisfaction, a sense of fulfillment, and the abundance I had always craved for. I began creating my wildest dreams.
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"Coaching is not about dealing with our problems, but more about asking what we want and how we can get it. And once we get what we want - our problems will
go away"
go away"