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Divorce Survival - How to Take Care of Yourself Emotionally To Get Through Your Divorce
By Linda Lipshutz
5. There are some marital situations that lend themselves very well to mediation. Adversarial litigation is financially costly and usually emotionally draining, so in those instances where mediation can be effective, you and your spouse may be spared a heavy toll. Mediation might be effective if:
a. You believe that it is possible for you and your spouse to sit together in a room and reasonably discuss your differences.
b. Your assets are straightforward (in other words, you do not have multiple, complicated business dealings to divide and you both have a similar idea in mind about how to divide your wealth.)
c. You are largely in agreement about how you will divide custody arrangements, and can reasonably co-parent, then you might be able to mediate a settlement that will suit the well-being and interest of your children.
6. Build a support network for yourself. Now is the time to reach out for the support of trusted friends and family. However, getting involved with a supportive group of people going through the same experiences can be enormously helpful. Spending time with other people who are also going through a divorce also can be a key to defining yourself as newly single, and becoming comfortable with this role. Your local Y or community center might offer a divorce group for people in your community.
7. Decide to take the high road. Although you are understandably angry and hurt, there is no benefit to you or your children to bad-mouth your ex-spouse. Not only does it make every one around you uncomfortable, it compromises your healing and adjustment and keeps you in a negative place.
The life you build for yourself after your divorce is up to you. You have a choice to either move beyond the hurt and pain or to stay stuck in a bitter, angry place. The choice is yours!
Linda Lipshutz, MS, ACSW knows how devastating divorce can be for you and your children. She has spent her career helping individuals and families move through this difficult stage while maintaining their dignity and sanity! You are invited to learn more about Linda by visiting her website, www.Lifesmartscoaching.com and click on the link to Divorcesmarts, the page devoted to divorce issues. You are also invited to sign up for two free newsletters, both designed to discuss difficult relationship issues. One of the newsletters is especially designed for singles. To sign up for the newsletters, visit www.Lifesmartscoaching.com> and click onto the newsletter sign up links.
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By Linda Lipshutz
5. There are some marital situations that lend themselves very well to mediation. Adversarial litigation is financially costly and usually emotionally draining, so in those instances where mediation can be effective, you and your spouse may be spared a heavy toll. Mediation might be effective if:
a. You believe that it is possible for you and your spouse to sit together in a room and reasonably discuss your differences.
b. Your assets are straightforward (in other words, you do not have multiple, complicated business dealings to divide and you both have a similar idea in mind about how to divide your wealth.)
c. You are largely in agreement about how you will divide custody arrangements, and can reasonably co-parent, then you might be able to mediate a settlement that will suit the well-being and interest of your children.
6. Build a support network for yourself. Now is the time to reach out for the support of trusted friends and family. However, getting involved with a supportive group of people going through the same experiences can be enormously helpful. Spending time with other people who are also going through a divorce also can be a key to defining yourself as newly single, and becoming comfortable with this role. Your local Y or community center might offer a divorce group for people in your community.
7. Decide to take the high road. Although you are understandably angry and hurt, there is no benefit to you or your children to bad-mouth your ex-spouse. Not only does it make every one around you uncomfortable, it compromises your healing and adjustment and keeps you in a negative place.
The life you build for yourself after your divorce is up to you. You have a choice to either move beyond the hurt and pain or to stay stuck in a bitter, angry place. The choice is yours!
Linda Lipshutz, MS, ACSW knows how devastating divorce can be for you and your children. She has spent her career helping individuals and families move through this difficult stage while maintaining their dignity and sanity! You are invited to learn more about Linda by visiting her website, www.Lifesmartscoaching.com and click on the link to Divorcesmarts, the page devoted to divorce issues. You are also invited to sign up for two free newsletters, both designed to discuss difficult relationship issues. One of the newsletters is especially designed for singles. To sign up for the newsletters, visit www.Lifesmartscoaching.com> and click onto the newsletter sign up links.
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